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Wendi's avatar

the things that light up your face <3 <3 <3 like watching you be you and thinking... wow, the way you think <3

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Janine Chapman's avatar

Love the detail🕺🎤🎭

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Noah Finn's avatar

I agree and I also love so many of these. Specifically, when an artist I love really freaking kills it.

Some of them I’m a little surprised - can you elaborate on sense of urgency? For me, I tend to spiral a little bit, but perhaps that is how I go about responding to urgency.

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Jesse Chapman's avatar

Great question and the answer is nuanced and interesting and could probably be an entire blog post in and of itself. I love the sense of urgency. I love rushing around at the last minute, shopping for those final few ingredients for a dinner party—it feels fucking REAL and I feel alive! But there's the problem: sometimes my body loves and knows that feeling so well that it unconsciously puts me in situations where that feeling happens when it's absolutely 100% unhelpful. For example, I don't like being late to places, especially the airport. So my brain runs to programs simultaneously: don't_be_late.exe and sense_of_urgency.exe. These are in conflict. Don't be late means pack the night before, go to bed and wake up early, move slowly and deliberately. Order the Uber and get to the airport hours ahead of when you need to. Nothing makes me feel more stable than being at my gate one full hour before my flight takes off. But that counter-program (sense_of_urgency.exe) is like "what the fuck, brah? why aren't you running me?" And it slowly and subtly sabotages in unhealthy ways. I'll stay at dinner too long the night before and rationalize it as also urgent "oh my god I haven't seen this friend in a while this is IMPORTANT so it's okay if I end up packing later tonight." I'll get home way too late and then say "well the dinner was worth it I'll pack in the morning." Etc etc etc until the domino effect ends up with me rushing to the gate, barely making my flight, hating everything about it. "Hating" everything about it except, well, boom, the body has found a way to get that sense of urgency PUMPING again. So the real answer to this is yes, I love it, but I also know it is not always the right energy to sit in. So as I've become more and more aware of this, I've started to learn to be more comfortable and love a sense of stillness. And if I can truly start to love that as much, I can actively choose which the best program to run given actually taking a moment and thinking about it versus just letting my unconscious/body to drive without my full awareness.

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Noah Finn's avatar

I see this is a pretty comprehensive list

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Jesse Chapman's avatar

THINGS not people THINGS :p

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