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Kiri Kraatz's avatar

I have to say, finding anyone willing to tell you the hard truth or just their honest contrary opinion anymore is challenging. I used to pride myself on being that person... possibly too blunt about it all, but I feel like my edges have dulled getting adapted in US culture, that is all about unwavering support, or at least that's what it feels like to me.

I love this concept of being your own life producer and writer. It's a perspective I rarely think about. And yes I definitely attract the drama... I need to stop saying I'm so good in the chaos, I can organize the mess.... cuz then all I do is attract more of the same stress into my life... That was a cycle for years, leading to multiple burnouts. I had the opportunity this year to work on a well organized project that showed me there is a way to make good projects without the chaos & drama. I'm looking to redefine my identity as being a prepared organizer who can pivot when needed vs. a chaos fixer in hopes I can guide myself to healthier work that gives me freedom to have a personal life. I'm sure there are many other areas, that I'm less aware of to realign to a more positive place but this is a good place to find motivation to pursue more of what I want to attract in life.

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Chris Newth's avatar

Love your analogy to all the writers & producers that seem to have conspired to create your life this way coming from inside you all along! Your way of putting complex ideas into understandable stories is really awesome.

Reading this also reminded me of therapist Marisa Peer's way of explaining it: whatever stories we tell ourselves—good or bad, helpful or destructive—our mind has to make true. Because that's what we're telling ourselves. That's what we believe! So our minds are gonna find alllllll the evidence in the world to prove ourselves right, until we change the story.

And remembering how the writers & producers & actors & audience are all actually within us reminds us of the power we have to make the cool changes we wanna make. The outside stuff can be a distraction from what can help us the most: looking inward at ourselves and what we're thinking, feeling, saying, & doing. Thanks for putting this in such a unique way!

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